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Managing Tempers

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Sounds simple advice doesn’t it? But in reality parenting on a daily basis causes mums and dads across the world to hold their hands up in exasperation.  On some days it’s easy to feel like you’re sinking in quicksand and no matter what you say to your child it seems to go in one ear and out the other.

My temper is short and Roo and I clash.  We always have.  Even when I was married there used to be times when I would despair at how I was supposed to control my temper whilst disciplining my child.  Saturday morning was a morning of exasperation and door slamming.  Roo was tired after her exertions at Legoland and began throwing a tantrum because I’d told her that a pirate costume she wanted was out of stock.  It’s easy to forget that she is only five and a half sometimes as a barrage of hurtful words rolled out of her mouth.  From things such as “I don’t want you as my mum” to “you’re stupid and know nothing and that’s why daddy doesn’t want you” whilst they may be words that have no context in her world they are still words that hurt.

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How Disciplined Are You?

uk mummy bloggerI had a funny conversation with a few of the school gate mum’s last week; our girls always run from school to the car park together and despite our best efforts of ‘don’t run’, ‘wait there’, don’t go too far’ they always go hell for leather up the path. It seems we all speak Chinese to our kids and they cock a complete deaf one when told not to do something, especially in front of their friends.

We all laughed about this and agreed that over the last few days we’d all been using the ‘if you don’t stop doing that you’re not going to the party’ trick.  However, in two of the 3 cases it had totally backfired as Roo and one other child had simply turned round and said ‘it’s ok I’m not that bothered anyway’; this had us in fits of laughter as we all agreed that even though we’d said that we wouldn’t take in them in reality taking away a party with their friends was never likely to happen in all reality.

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Smacking your child

I was doing my usual browse of newspapers and online RSS feeds this morning and stumbled across a discussion on the Daily Mail website.  The discussion centred around the question ‘would you intervene if you saw a mother hitting her child.’  I was intrigued as until I was a parent I had a pretty fixed viewpoint on smacking your child.

If you read the discussion there is over four pages of comments on this; some taking a really strong stance against mother’s choosing to discipline their child with a smack in public and others firmly believing that just because you choose to smack your child for bad behaviour doesn’t necessarily mean you are a bad parent.

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