Sometimes being a parent can be pretty lonely. I don’t know how those who are single parents manage as it must be doubly hard for them when it is literally just them and the kids in the house all day every day. That said some days I feel pretty much like a single parent in our house and there is no escaping some days the loneliness of being a mum. It doesn’t help when I see pictures online of mum’s insanely grinning at their kids with what look like drug induced smiles – as if to convince me that every day like this is fantastic and nothing ever goes wrong.
Apart from all the domestic chores falling to me, I sort out the bills, the finances, childcare issues and any general brown stuff hitting the fan from week to week. As a consequence this doesn’t leave much time for socialising or nights out with the girls or even coffee on a Saturday with a friend. My life appears to be full of the drudgery of domesticity punctuated by random acts of motherhood and occasionally some time off whilst Roo goes to a grandparent.
As a result of which it has occurred to me that I am actually pretty lonely. Not as in Billy no mates lonely – but oh god I wish someone would pick up the phone and ask me out for the evening for a drink or a meal, just something other than sitting at home watching Sky+ shows, blogging, tweeting, ironing, cleaning etc….seriously anything to break up the monotony.
Daddy E has quite a busy social life, he gets to go out with the lads at the weekend when their is a car show on and this means that often for the whole weekend he disappears leaving me alone again with Roo. As much as I love her company – something more stimulating than why can Abney & Teal sit in their umbrella and she can’t needs to be happening in my life.
Most of my child-free friends aren’t interested in going out to bars where the music isn’t going to require me shouting myself hoarse all night, or they are at the other end of the spectrum and think that I can still afford to drink in swanky champagne bars all evening. Then I’ve got friends with kids all have teeny tiny babies so are in that stage of “oh my god I can’t leave them or they will self destruct”.
I feel quite lonely sitting here now writing this, Roo is in bed and Daddy E is out….again. Now that I am becoming a stay at home mum from June I know that I will need to get out the house during the day or quite frankly I will go stir crazy with boredom.
I wouldn’t swap being a mum not in the slightest – but it would be nice if I could hold up a “TIME OUT” card and get out and socialise and hold a proper conversation once in a while.
So mummy bloggers of the UK if you’re on twitter and we follow each other and you fancy meeting up for a coffee, a play date, a run around in the park then please tweet me!