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My Bag of Worries

Following on from my post about Roo battling with emotions earlier this week, this morning we were in bed cuddling as she’d got up early and she told me she had a bag of worries.  Unprompted Roo went on to say how that if she had something in her bag of worries then she was to find a grownup and tell them what it was and that grownup would help them.

Again for the second time this week I was touched by the deep thinking of my child.  I asked her what was in her bag of worries.  She replied ‘well mummy, I’m worried about burglars coming to our house and getting in and taking our pets.’

I pondered this for a minute and thought what a strange thing for a little person to be worried about.  As we talked further it transpired that the bag of worries is a book that the children have been reading with their teacher for circle time at school this week.

She’s a deep thinker is Roo and cares greatly for her family.  This I know because every night she kisses photographs I have at the side of her bed of my mum and dad, Daddy E’s mum and my brother and his wife.  She then hugs tightly a picture of her best friend at school and won’t go to sleep until she’s done this.

I’ve looked on the internet today and have found the book on Amazon and have ordered a copy.  It’s written by Virginia Ironside is best known as one of Britain’s leading agony aunts. Her many books include self-help titles on subjects such as bereavement, as well as the children’s spooky adventure series BURLAP HALL.

The book has some brilliant reviews from parents who have used it to get their children to understand feelings and how to open up if they have worries about something.  I’ve ordered a copy today and it will now be added to our ever growing, and slightly groaning, bookshelf and I think it will be a great book for reminding Roo that it’s best to talk about our feelings rather than bottle them up.

Our children are bound to feel anxious as they grow up, there are so many external influences and pressures for them to deal with now.  We’ve always been an open and honest family and it’s lovely to think that Roo will be able to come to us with her fears.

Here is a link to the book in case any of my readers want to talk about feelings with your child or children.  I always remember a piece of advice I was given by a friend and parenting coach if your child seems anxious or worried:-

‘Listen carefully to your child as she explains what’s bothering her. Don’t jump to conclusions — and don’t assume that saying “Don’t worry” will help.’

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2 thoughts on “My Bag of Worries

  1. Samuel worries lots. This books looks great so I will be getting a copy as it may later be useful for my toddlers. If Roo seems to worry lots, or just maybe because she is a deep thinker, I was recommended to use a “worry box”. Samuel wasn’t keen, and it maybe a boy thing, but I remember as a girl quite liking writing in a diary, so maybe for a girl a worry box would work. Make a nice box as a craft activity, for Roo to decorate. Then she can have little cards to write on and post them into her box. Then, organise a time perhaps once a week that you can have girly time to read the cards in the worry box and talk over any that she feels are still necessary. Emphasis to be child led, its her box. xx
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  2. My son is always worried about burglars coming in and often says he can’t sleep because his mind won’t let him. This book sounds good and I love the idea of the worry box. Thank you. x

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